ok, i know the tittle is a bit controversey but hey, think positive..i'm just sharing some ideas here..hihi..i was googling about wedding and such and i came accross a very funny situation but true indeed...that planning a wedding a a lot of work and stress that came in one package...tell me if there is a soul out here who would not complain or utter a word "i stressed!" or " i think i'm a lilttle stress" atau yang sama definisi dengan ayay tersebut.. =) back to me googling wedding info and i found myself reading 1 article regarding stress management during planning a wedding and i thought of sharing what i read with everyone...
it's called "Dealing with Stressful and Annoying People During Wedding Planning" by Nina Callaway at About.com Guide. basically, she listed 5 main sources that keep us bride to be stress out and how to overcome these 5 negatives energies .I don't have to tell you that people planning weddings are stressed out. Between money, time, and general expectations, most engaged couples are ready to pull out their hair at one point or another. If you can break down where that stress is coming from, it will be easier to deal with. Here's how to cope with the top five people who will stress you out, annoy you, and generally drive you crazy:.so, hopefully this will be useful to you as well.. =) let's read!!! ohh, i have highlighted the points that i think important to consider.
5. The Stress of Pushy or Unresponsive Wedding Vendors
Vendors want to make money, so they'll often push more expensive products. But it's okay to say, "I need to stick to my budget. Can we stay with the basic option?" If you're still tempted, say firmly, "I love it, but I need to be strict about budget. Do you have any flexibility on the price?" Then rather than agreeing to it right away, say "I'll have to go home and see if I can move some things around and get back to you." At home, it will be easier to decide if that extra option is really necessary.For unresponsive vendors who don't return your phone calls quickly, politely tell them that you're concerned about promptness. Then it's 3 strikes: If they don't step up their game, it's time to find someone who has time for your business.
4. Divorced and Bickering Family Members
These people stress you out for two reasons:1) Who knows how they'll behave at your wedding? Sit down with them to say "I'm so glad you're coming to my wedding. I hope you can do me a big favor. You two fight so much, and I really want the focus of our wedding to be on love. Do you mind doing everything in your power to be civil just for that one day?" Remember, if they do bicker at your wedding, you'll probably be too caught up in everything else to even notice. 2) They can make marriage and family seem really unhappy and doomed to fail. So take time now to focus on yourselves.
These people stress you out for two reasons:1) Who knows how they'll behave at your wedding? Sit down with them to say "I'm so glad you're coming to my wedding. I hope you can do me a big favor. You two fight so much, and I really want the focus of our wedding to be on love. Do you mind doing everything in your power to be civil just for that one day?" Remember, if they do bicker at your wedding, you'll probably be too caught up in everything else to even notice. 2) They can make marriage and family seem really unhappy and doomed to fail. So take time now to focus on yourselves.
3. Well-meaning Opinionated Friends, Coworkers, and Relatives
It's pretty much guaranteed that everyone will want to know the details of your wedding and everyone will have an opinion. Listen to what they have to say, but with a grain of salt. Repeat this mantra: They are not the ones getting married, we are. If you listened to what everyone thought, you would have a mishmosh wedding that would not reflect who you are in the slightest. So you can consider what they think - they might have valuable advice for you - but don't let it sway you from what's really important to you. In the moment you can say, "Thanks so much for the advice! It's nice to have wisdom from people who've done it before. I'll add it to my "things to think about" folder!"
It's pretty much guaranteed that everyone will want to know the details of your wedding and everyone will have an opinion. Listen to what they have to say, but with a grain of salt. Repeat this mantra: They are not the ones getting married, we are. If you listened to what everyone thought, you would have a mishmosh wedding that would not reflect who you are in the slightest. So you can consider what they think - they might have valuable advice for you - but don't let it sway you from what's really important to you. In the moment you can say, "Thanks so much for the advice! It's nice to have wisdom from people who've done it before. I'll add it to my "things to think about" folder!"
2. Your Parents
Our parents stress us out for our entire lives, why would they stop now? Whether its complaining about money you're spending, wanting to be overly involved, having high ideals of what a wedding should be, or disapproving of your marriage totally, parents can be STRESSFUL. Here are some strategies:Early in the wedding planning process, get together to talk money, and discuss general initial ideas of when/where/style/size. Then try to avoid the pitfalls. Don't promise any thing you haven't first talked about with your fiance. Keep sight of your vision for your wedding; write it in large type next to the phone if necessary. Try to let your parents feel involved by asking for advice and giving them the tasks you don't need creative control of.
Our parents stress us out for our entire lives, why would they stop now? Whether its complaining about money you're spending, wanting to be overly involved, having high ideals of what a wedding should be, or disapproving of your marriage totally, parents can be STRESSFUL. Here are some strategies:Early in the wedding planning process, get together to talk money, and discuss general initial ideas of when/where/style/size. Then try to avoid the pitfalls. Don't promise any thing you haven't first talked about with your fiance. Keep sight of your vision for your wedding; write it in large type next to the phone if necessary. Try to let your parents feel involved by asking for advice and giving them the tasks you don't need creative control of.
1. The #1 People Who Will Stress You Out: Each Other
It's true. No one can stress you out during wedding planning as much as your future spouse can. Of all the people involved in the planning, they're probably the one whom you'll most frequently need to make decisions with. It's probably also the most major project you've worked on together and so differences in issues like budgeting, organization styles, and even just taste level can suddenly become problems. And though they'll probably stress you out more, the only way out is to understand each others' need..it's not a 1 person's wedding..it's "our wedding" so compromise is the best answer of all.
It's true. No one can stress you out during wedding planning as much as your future spouse can. Of all the people involved in the planning, they're probably the one whom you'll most frequently need to make decisions with. It's probably also the most major project you've worked on together and so differences in issues like budgeting, organization styles, and even just taste level can suddenly become problems. And though they'll probably stress you out more, the only way out is to understand each others' need..it's not a 1 person's wedding..it's "our wedding" so compromise is the best answer of all.
source: about.com
P/S: what a long article....though i've simplified the version a little ;)
