Penangan urutan Mak Nani & air jamunya

so i went back to penang last weekend for the 2 days weekend break. the motive of going back this time around aside from visiting friends and doing a bit shopping was to actually going for a tradional body massage. well, to be honest, i didn't feel so well for the past 3 weeks or so after the miscarriage. i didn't really had a strict berpantang since i was feeling ok right after a week the of the miscarriage. little that i know, because of my don't-really-give-a-damn-attitide, it finally took a toll on me. i mention i had gain weight in my previous entries right??? there you go, i finally figured out the cause. BADAN SUDAH MASUK HANGIN!

i was feeling bloated,my legs cramped a few times, not to mention the uncomfortable feelings inside my tummy, also the lower tummy (ari2) felt VERY uncomfortable for the past 3 weeks. i didn't really understood why i was feeling such way. i couldn't explain to my mak how i felt. so i consult a friend and she suggested the traditional body massage from experience mak bidan kampung. and luckily back inpenang i have a friend who always told me stories about her mak bidan from indonesia named Mak Nani. she has been massging my bestie and a few other friends from the start. before she was pregnant, while pregnant and after delivery. the reviews were so freaking great. they said mak nani punya penangan memang KAW.

so i asked my mak to arrange me an appointment for me. i could tell she was an experienced bidan by the way she massage me. i felt better just after one session. i have to finish 3 sessions with her. another 1 session to go.

she was like any other bidan. very talkative,full of tips. love her indon accent! hahah...rasa macam dalam telenovela lak. she said my whole body dah masuk angin. she asked why didn't i come to her earlier? well. how should i know?? i thought i was going to be fine.. ;( my urat saraf semuanya dah keras and get this, she said batu meriyan i dah lari. WHAT??? meriammmm?? i was schocked. seriously, i had no idea what was it. rupanya she explained, it's our peranakan.hmm, i thought peranakan tu rahim kan??bukan ka rahim dok kat bawah ni?? she said the baru meriyan tu dok kat atas di tepi perut ni.right under the ribcage.huuuhhh cemana tu??

so she fixed it.Alhamdulillah, i feel a lot better.it's just that i need to start berpantang balik since badan penuh angin kus kus...heheh..

she even prepared me 2 kinds of air jamu to bring back. at first, of couse i was reluctant. i never drink jamu before. i only take vitamins but not consistentlay. but Mak Nani convinved me to drink her homemade jamu. terkejut ok! it tasted good! i always thought this kind of jamu would be very bitter and smell unpleasant. again, i was so wrong. the jamu was her secret recipe she said. some of the ingredients could only be found in her hometown Medan, Indonesia. so i tried. taste?? sweet, mildly sour, herbal-like. it's liquid jamu. bukan pil or paste like. okay la...not bad. i can handle it.

she gave me very informative tips:

-avoid sour foods

-spicy foods

-soak my feet in warm water

-avoid ice or cold drinks completely from now on. ( OH NO)

and a lot more. which i forgot...adoi! i need to ask her again this weekend.

she said this is to make sure i could easily concieve again, insyaAllah. BUT most importantly, doa to Allah. she said, by the look on my feet, i'm the type of person who would have an easy delelivery/birthing. insyaAllah, amin..i hope so.

she also mention about not giving up on trying for a baby. always be positive and usaha tanpa jemu. Mak Nani kata if we have been married for a year or two, still no signs of getting pregnant, don't waste time waiting. USAHA. maybe batu meriyan dah all over the place. only a proper massage could put it back to its original place. and, kalau bidan and pesakit tak dapat rasa denyutan nadi di tengah2 pusat while massaging tu, it's not a good sign.dia kata, jauhkan lah perkara macam tu. sebab the chances of getting pregnant would be almost zero. BUT,again ALLAH MAHA BERKUASA. USAHA yang penting.

i leave it to Allah & tawakal for everything that He would determine to me. reading about others who are expecting and seeing others with their cute tummies, i so want that too. but i know i have to wait for some time. i am still afraid of the past experience.losing ur baby is definately a very sad experience. furthermore, like many have suggested to wait at least 6 months.

I'm Engaged So Stop Stressing Me Out!

ok, i know the tittle is a bit controversey but hey, think positive..i'm just sharing some ideas here..hihi..i was googling about wedding and such and i came accross a very funny situation but true indeed...that planning a wedding a a lot of work and stress that came in one package...tell me if there is a soul out here who would not complain or utter a word "i stressed!" or " i think i'm a lilttle stress" atau yang sama definisi dengan ayay tersebut.. =) back to me googling wedding info and i found myself reading 1 article regarding stress management during planning a wedding and i thought of sharing what i read with everyone...

it's called "Dealing with Stressful and Annoying People During Wedding Planning" by Nina Callaway at About.com Guide. basically, she listed 5 main sources that keep us bride to be stress out and how to overcome these 5 negatives energies .I don't have to tell you that people planning weddings are stressed out. Between money, time, and general expectations, most engaged couples are ready to pull out their hair at one point or another. If you can break down where that stress is coming from, it will be easier to deal with. Here's how to cope with the top five people who will stress you out, annoy you, and generally drive you crazy:.so, hopefully this will be useful to you as well.. =) let's read!!! ohh, i have highlighted the points that i think important to consider.

5. The Stress of Pushy or Unresponsive Wedding Vendors
Vendors want to make money, so they'll often push more expensive products. But it's okay to say, "I need to stick to my budget. Can we stay with the basic option?" If you're still tempted, say firmly, "I love it, but I need to be strict about budget. Do you have any flexibility on the price?" Then rather than agreeing to it right away, say "I'll have to go home and see if I can move some things around and get back to you." At home, it will be easier to decide if that extra option is really necessary.For unresponsive vendors who don't return your phone calls quickly, politely tell them that you're concerned about promptness. Then it's 3 strikes: If they don't step up their game, it's time to find someone who has time for your business.

4. Divorced and Bickering Family Members
These people stress you out for two reasons:1) Who knows how they'll behave at your wedding? Sit down with them to say "I'm so glad you're coming to my wedding. I hope you can do me a big favor. You two fight so much, and I really want the focus of our wedding to be on love. Do you mind doing everything in your power to be civil just for that one day?" Remember, if they do bicker at your wedding, you'll probably be too caught up in everything else to even notice. 2) They can make marriage and family seem really unhappy and doomed to fail. So take time now to focus on yourselves.

3. Well-meaning Opinionated Friends, Coworkers, and Relatives
It's pretty much guaranteed that everyone will want to know the details of your wedding and everyone will have an opinion. Listen to what they have to say, but with a grain of salt. Repeat this mantra: They are not the ones getting married, we are. If you listened to what everyone thought, you would have a mishmosh wedding that would not reflect who you are in the slightest. So you can consider what they think - they might have valuable advice for you - but don't let it sway you from what's really important to you. In the moment you can say, "Thanks so much for the advice! It's nice to have wisdom from people who've done it before. I'll add it to my "things to think about" folder!"

2. Your Parents
Our parents stress us out for our entire lives, why would they stop now? Whether its complaining about money you're spending, wanting to be overly involved, having high ideals of what a wedding should be, or disapproving of your marriage totally, parents can be STRESSFUL. Here are some strategies:Early in the wedding planning process, get together to talk money, and discuss general initial ideas of when/where/style/size. Then try to avoid the pitfalls. Don't promise any thing you haven't first talked about with your fiance. Keep sight of your vision for your wedding; write it in large type next to the phone if necessary. Try to let your parents feel involved by asking for advice and giving them the tasks you don't need creative control of.

1. The #1 People Who Will Stress You Out: Each Other
It's true. No one can stress you out during wedding planning as much as your future spouse can. Of all the people involved in the planning, they're probably the one whom you'll most frequently need to make decisions with. It's probably also the most major project you've worked on together and so differences in issues like budgeting, organization styles, and even just taste level can suddenly become problems. And though they'll probably stress you out more, the only way out is to understand each others' need..it's not a 1 person's wedding..it's "our wedding" so compromise is the best answer of all.

source: about.com

P/S: what a long article....though i've simplified the version a little ;)