Friday, January 29, 2010

I'm Engaged So Stop Stressing Me Out!

ok, i know the tittle is a bit controversey but hey, think positive..i'm just sharing some ideas here..hihi..i was googling about wedding and such and i came accross a very funny situation but true indeed...that planning a wedding a a lot of work and stress that came in one package...tell me if there is a soul out here who would not complain or utter a word "i stressed!" or " i think i'm a lilttle stress" atau yang sama definisi dengan ayay tersebut.. =) back to me googling wedding info and i found myself reading 1 article regarding stress management during planning a wedding and i thought of sharing what i read with everyone...
it's called "Dealing with Stressful and Annoying People During Wedding Planning" by Nina Callaway at Guide. basically, she listed 5 main sources that keep us bride to be stress out and how to overcome these 5 negatives energies .I don't have to tell you that people planning weddings are stressed out. Between money, time, and general expectations, most engaged couples are ready to pull out their hair at one point or another. If you can break down where that stress is coming from, it will be easier to deal with. Here's how to cope with the top five people who will stress you out, annoy you, and generally drive you, hopefully this will be useful to you as well.. =) let's read!!! ohh, i have highlighted the points that i think important to consider.

5. The Stress of Pushy or Unresponsive Wedding Vendors
Vendors want to make money, so they'll often push more expensive products. But it's okay to say, "I need to stick to my budget. Can we stay with the basic option?" If you're still tempted, say firmly, "I love it, but I need to be strict about budget. Do you have any flexibility on the price?" Then rather than agreeing to it right away, say "I'll have to go home and see if I can move some things around and get back to you." At home, it will be easier to decide if that extra option is really necessary.For unresponsive vendors who don't return your phone calls quickly, politely tell them that you're concerned about promptness. Then it's 3 strikes: If they don't step up their game, it's time to find someone who has time for your business.
4. Divorced and Bickering Family Members
These people stress you out for two reasons:1) Who knows how they'll behave at your wedding? Sit down with them to say "I'm so glad you're coming to my wedding. I hope you can do me a big favor. You two fight so much, and I really want the focus of our wedding to be on love. Do you mind doing everything in your power to be civil just for that one day?" Remember, if they do bicker at your wedding, you'll probably be too caught up in everything else to even notice. 2) They can make marriage and family seem really unhappy and doomed to fail. So take time now to focus on yourselves.
3. Well-meaning Opinionated Friends, Coworkers, and Relatives
It's pretty much guaranteed that everyone will want to know the details of your wedding and everyone will have an opinion. Listen to what they have to say, but with a grain of salt. Repeat this mantra: They are not the ones getting married, we are. If you listened to what everyone thought, you would have a mishmosh wedding that would not reflect who you are in the slightest. So you can consider what they think - they might have valuable advice for you - but don't let it sway you from what's really important to you. In the moment you can say, "Thanks so much for the advice! It's nice to have wisdom from people who've done it before. I'll add it to my "things to think about" folder!"
2. Your Parents
Our parents stress us out for our entire lives, why would they stop now? Whether its complaining about money you're spending, wanting to be overly involved, having high ideals of what a wedding should be, or disapproving of your marriage totally, parents can be STRESSFUL. Here are some strategies:Early in the wedding planning process, get together to talk money, and discuss general initial ideas of when/where/style/size. Then try to avoid the pitfalls. Don't promise any thing you haven't first talked about with your fiance. Keep sight of your vision for your wedding; write it in large type next to the phone if necessary. Try to let your parents feel involved by asking for advice and giving them the tasks you don't need creative control of.
1. The #1 People Who Will Stress You Out: Each Other
It's true. No one can stress you out during wedding planning as much as your future spouse can. Of all the people involved in the planning, they're probably the one whom you'll most frequently need to make decisions with. It's probably also the most major project you've worked on together and so differences in issues like budgeting, organization styles, and even just taste level can suddenly become problems. And though they'll probably stress you out more, the only way out is to understand each others''s not a 1 person's's "our wedding" so compromise is the best answer of all.
P/S: what a long article....though i've simplified the version a little ;)

Thursday, January 21, 2010

inspirasi baju nikah?

hello folks!~ lama jugak blog ini tidak di update. after my last entry, again i couldn't log in to my blog account. it was so tak tentu arah, cos i really felt sunyi gila. hopefully everything will be back to normal starting now on.. * keep my finggers cross*

ok...i know the title above may trigger sparks of interest to some people ( hahah ya ka??) well, i have been keeping some pictures regarding the design of my baju nikah that i wish to have. just like any modern bride, i would go for something simple since i know my body type... (i'm fat ok) and i don't fancy something bombastic or so heavy and intricate cos i'm just too afraid my baju would not look and suit me the way it suppose to be.. so just wanna play safe, i'd like something SIMPLE.

long before i know about weddig stuffs, i have always loved to see bride's baju nikah. and baju nikah to me always always means WHITE... that's it..if i see other color for baju nikah, then it's not baju nikah..hihihi...sorry ya if i have offended anybody who opts for other than white in color for their baju nikah. ;p i can't help it..but white is so suci murni kan. and i just can't seem to agree on other color to be worn during my, insyaAllah i will choose white lace later.
so, how about the design?? well, to be honest, i still have no idea what will look ok on me. it's every bride's dream to look beautiful on her day, rite! but 1 thing for sure i have always wanted the back button instead of a normal zipper on my back..i felt in love with these picture the first time i layed my eyes on it... i don't know what type of button this is but they said ala2 butang cosry...i'm not too sure about it.well, i know i can't afford to have the cosry people to sew my i may have to show this picture to my tailor and hopefully they could come out with something almost like this..i mean the button.. =) focus on the the brides' back only ya kawan2 cos i don't want want a zip! =) i have been keeping these pics for sometime actually and i didn't want to be too excited to write it on my blog cos i thought that "still early nak tulis tentang baju2 idaman ni" hihi.. so, macam malu2 lagi nak cerita..hihi..anyways, i took these pics form danielzain all credits go to the his page and the beautiful brides!
i hope this buttons will go well with the kurung modern too cos i know i won't look good in kebaya..yep! baju kurung modern for my nikah day, insyaAllah...=)

p/s: sedang berusaha dengan tekun menguruskan badan ini...

Monday, January 18, 2010

happy mood~

okay, sorry if i tersasar dari landasan di entry ini..ehhehe...after days of trying to log on to my blog, today at 3.30 pm i finally managed to log. tense gila la tak dapat buka blog..cos i thought our office has completely blocked the access to blogger web after the facebook is now officially blocked!! warghhhhh...napa buat macam tu?? sunyi la hidupku kini... :'( well, me and my officemates tried lots of method to log in to our FB, including installing a new software to somehow unblocked the thing but a waste of time ja...sabaq ja la..wireless at our homes pun very bad..i guess this the sign to get that broadbad thing...huhh!
but nevertheless, still im happy to be able to blog again... yahoooo~ im not too far from civilization after all!
i will update soon, TQ very much for reading ( if any)

Monday, January 11, 2010

long distance preparations

it's a lilttle chalanging for somebody like me who knows nothing about wedding preparations to prepare my big day since i'm away from home and all the things that i want are no where to be found here in perlis...maybe because of lack exposure or whatever, i find that this place kosong..apa pun takdak~ (oopssi!)

so all my preparations so far boleh dikatakan, biasa2 sahaja. nothing big.. since my wedding will be in october, so i'm not making too much progress. just that at this moment as we have planned, we buy 1 or 2 items a month for the hantaran and the rest is still at discussion stage. i can't be too hands on since i'm away from home and many of the wedding prepations are going on in penang like the caterer for reception, pelamin, make up, my baju, photographer, etc, etc, etc.. so all i can do from here is just making calls and emailing asking people about stuffs...and how i wish i could spend my weekends hunting for stuffs and pay a visit to people that currently i intend to work with..

lucky me, there's a thing called, technology..hahah..if not i may have to do last minute preparation ja la bila ada cuti panjang..i have set some
dates to meet my vendors and also i have asked my sisters to help me a little with the hantaran stuffs.. like this month i want to buy the Quran and telekung. i have asked my sis in ipoh to help me buy these items cos i trust her capability to select the most suitable for me..heheh! excited jugak and relieved at the same time cos once i have started the process, i feel like a liltle weight has been lifted off my shoulder..lega cek! so at least can cross my list dengan senyuman...hihi.

1 thing for sure doing the preparations from hundreds kilometers away is not fun at all.haha...ntah la, tak puas rasa if tak tengok depan2.

Friday, January 8, 2010

1 year older

yeppp..tonight at exactly 12 am i'll be turning 27 years YOUNG! well, if i want it precisely it's supposed to be at 10pm, January 9. oh tidakkkk in 3 years time that number will turn into 30...tuanya i rasa. i don't know how to describe the feeling. i'm supposed to be happy on my birthday, rite? but this year somehow i wish that my birthday would be in june...tengah2 so takdak la rasa as if tua cepat sangat kot...hahah but what to do..i'm a january baby. ishk!! tak baik kan rasa macam ni. evntually, all of us will be old kan. so accept the fact cik norr!! haihhhh

ok, time to be nothing but positive about the whole thing that is in front of me~ i'm so blessed be turning 27 ( tho i still wish it was 21) and at the age of 27 tomorrow i will be looking back and felling even more blessed than ever..i just don't know how to describe everything that is inside of me but 1 thing that i'm proud of is that i have accomplished a lot if i were to compare my life like 10 or 12 ago. i mean at that time, being young and immature i had no idea how i wanted my life to be. i was not interested at my studies at all. and had moments where i felt people underestimated me and really looked down on me.i was at the low of my low. but everything changed when i was in uni. i met new people, new friends and new knowledge to discover i enjoyed every bit of it!! and today, i think i'm not as self-concious as i was, i'm independent, i have a clearer picture of what i want to achieve in 10 years, insyaAllah if i'm blessed again with another 10 years and many more to come =)

goshh! i'll be 27 tomorrow. the journey wasn't easy so far and still won't be easy in future as long as we are human...tawakal dengan yang mendatang and keep going..
tapi...this year i'll be celebrating alone and lonely in my house la.. uwaaaaa!~ takpa...i have plan... i will eat the whole cake la kot...( see, cake pun beli sendiri tahun ni) *hint to fiance, with hope he will make it up somethig for me later..soon, please* hihih..


Tuesday, January 5, 2010

1 done..many more to do!

i had a long break last week in penang,..( yeah, i know i keep mentioning penang over & over again. ngeee) for more than a week. a few things that i managed to accomplish during my break in sweet penang... which is....BOOKING THE HALL!! yeaaayyy...finally i'm 1 step towards my wedding...hahah which is still a long way to go. but knowing my area, i knew i had to make this move fast or i would end up having no place for reception. at the beginning, i didn't really fond of booking the hall too early then my sis told to have it book in advance to avoid any inconvinence the next day, i went to look around 3 halls with my mak and to my surprise, many people have actually booked the halls even earlier!! bare in mind that it was 27th December 2009 but many of the halls are alomost fully booked for 2010...fuhh! apa lagi..kecut perut la i time tu cos the clerk told me march,may, june, november and december 2010 dah almost fully book. nasib the month that i plan to have my wedding takdak sapa book lagi..ehehhe...relieved! but when i mentioned the date, this pakcik said " la..tarikh cik tu dah ada mai tanya" i was a bit down la then he continued, " tapi tuan punya badan belum hantaq borang..sapa cepat dia dapat la"

i went home with a piece of paper and i discussed a little with fiance on the phone and made a few calls asking for opinions...then 2 days later, i went to submit the form with my sister...and Alhamdulillah, sempat jugak choop dulu. i didn't know wheter i made the right decision but it's ok if ada rezeki that hall will be the venue for my wedding reception if later i decided to change my mind then be it...kan??? erm... i heard about a place around my town that has a swimming pool and there were a few weddings held there recently...i dunno,..the sound of having a wedding by the pool pun quite interesting, rite?? =) ntah, tetiba that idea lingers in mind!

i have no regret of booking that hall cos i dun have to pay until 3 moths before the big day. i only booked it cos i dun go back to penang every week. so at least at this moment we have a place to hold a wedding already. if there is some changes to be made then, tak pa la kan.

i like the hall cos it's located in the middle of town and easier for people to find it. i believe my friends from Kedah, Perlis, Perak semua tu can locate that place. plus, it has the basic facilities like separate surau for women and men, wash room, big parking area, and a few other interesting ok la kan.. also the hall has a i think i better think of the style of pelamin that suits the place. =)

well, i haven't written an entry regarding my wedding list just yet, but trust me i have it all long after my engagement..fiance has recieved a copy of it like a month ago and hopefully we could follow it with dedication and disipline..hahhah...( takot bajet kami berlari2 meninggalkan kami)

so!! i think that's it i wanna share in this entry.. =) walaupun sedikit saja benda yang berjaya dilaksanakan, i must say, i'm happy...

Monday, January 4, 2010

my humble new year wishes to you!

tho i'm like days behind, still i'd like to wish everyone who's reading ( if any) A VERY HAPPY AND PEACEFUL 2010! yeahhhh!! hope that all your wishes have been granted last year and have a great great 2010... =)
wahh, cam lama tak update this blog...well, the start of 2010 really making me a bit nervous and just can't wait for what in store for me. like everyone else, i hope to be a better daughter, sister, friend, aunty and last but not least a better partner for him..insyaAllah..

whatelse? i really..really...really wish to lose weight...nyampah!! no matter how hard i try i'd never really lose much! so, hopefully this year i will make it... or i won't fit into the wedding dress. =(
whatelse?? well i better make a long list out of this entry if i were to tell all my wishes..heheh..
well friends...again, have a great year ahead and work harder okies!